Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Is It More Difficult for Women to Orgasm than for Men?

Is it harder for women to reach orgasm than men?

It is true that in general, women often find it more challenging to reach orgasm compared to men. Surveys and clinical experience confirm that between 10 to15 percent of all American women have never experienced orgasm and only 35 percent of the female population will orgasm during intercourse.
There are many reasons for a woman's inability to climax, including such things as being unaware of her body’s sexual responses, sexual anxiety, generalized stress, health issues and being on certain medications such as antidepressants and birth control. Other reasons may have more to do with the woman's partner, who may be uneducated about her sexual anatomy, have poor communication skills with her or hold unrealistic expectations of how a woman can reach an orgasm.

The inability to orgasm at all or difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse has created considerable concern among women and their partners, causing one, the other, or both to feel inept or dysfunctional. 

Women often find orgasms more elusive for three reasons –

1)         Physical issues such as medications, health issues as well as mental stress and lack of sleep are causes for lowered sexual functioning.

 Scientists in the Netherlands have recently proven that lack of anxiety and deep relaxation are a key aspect in female arousal, more so than direct stimulation to the genitals. What this means is that letting go of all anxiety and fear may be the more important, even necessary aspect of achieving orgasm. With women often working, raising children and multitasking throughout long days they are certainly no stranger to the symptoms of stress. Finding ways to reduce stress has shown to be significantly effective when it comes to improving sexual functioning.

 A variety of medications cause decreased sex drive as well as the body’s ability to respond sexually through lubrication. Also, some health concerns such as diabetes, cancer and other physical ailments can impact sexual functioning and libido. Therefore ruling out physical possibilities through an annual check up is always recommended.

2)         Lack of sexual education and awareness of their body.

Many women are in the dark about their own sexuality, let alone the resources and products that are available for them to enhance their sexual experiences. Women’s sexual health has been widely ignored over much of our history and while our society is beginning to be more focused on this important issue, there is still a great deal of research needed. From better understanding of hormones, surgeries involving the female reproductive system to the effects these have on a woman’s libido are all areas that should be further studied.
 It is also important that we make this research more readily available to all women so that they are better able to be educated about and embrace their sexuality.

3)         Mainstream norms in our society are more encouraging toward men when it comes to masturbation and sex in general, which in turn provides them with more freedom to explore their bodies sexually, thus allowing them to be more efficient at understanding the stimulation that will allow them to orgasm.  
For women, there are many ways to learn how to become orgasmic and expand the levels of pleasure and satisfaction either with a partner or alone. Because women tend to find it easier to have an orgasm when they are feeling relaxed and in a sensual state of mind, finding ways to decompress is recommended.
Female orgasm can sometimes take quite a long time. Many women worry that they take too long to orgasm and the worry in turn tends to affect their ability to relax and go with the flow into an orgasm. The fact that women typically take longer than men to have an orgasm should not be seen as negative; it is simply the difference between genders.  The average time for a woman to achieve orgasm is 20-60 minutes, however many women learn to have an orgasm with 5-20 min of stimulation. This is true especially for women using a sex toy with vibration or having intercourse with a long term partner. 

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